Sunday, May 10, 2009
Being a birth mom
First off, Happy Mothers Day to all the mommy's! Second, Happy Birth Mothers Day too..(which was yesterday).
Birth Mothers Day is always the Saturday before mothers day. Many people have asked me why we just don't celebrate on mothers day with all the other mothers. Well, we (birth mothers), feel like mothers. We carried and delivered our babies, and we sacrificed for them. Something any good mother would do. But, we need our own day. Not because we feel that we are better then the rest of the mothers. It's because we are a different kind of mother. I personally feel that today, my birth sons adoptive mother should be celebrated. Today is her day. Yesterday was my day.
Being a birth mom is not something that I expected in my life. But it happened. As hard as it's been, and as many tears as I've cried, I'm grateful that it did happen. I now know the true meaning of being selfless. I never in my right mind would have ever thought that I could give someone else my little baby that I loved so much. But I did, and it was for him, not me. I never thought that I was strong enough to do something so hard. Now, I feel like I can take on anything. I never thought that I could love someone so much through pictures and letters, but every time I get a picture of my birth son, I fall in love with him even more. I am so grateful to be a birth mom. I am grateful to my birth sons wonderful parents who have been so good to me, have never forgotten about me and love him more then anything. I am so grateful to our Heavenly Father and Savior for not only getting me through the turmoil, but also for the atonement. Repentance is real and our Savior truly knows how we feel. So, every Saturday before mothers day, always remember that it's birth mothers day. If you were adopted, or know someone that was, or know a birth mother yourself, don't forget that wonderful woman who sacrificed and gave another couple such a wonderful gift. Because without birth moms, some mothers would not have a mothers day.